My Mother In Pictures, Part 2

At the end of the last posting, there was a picture from 1964, shortly after my mother had been widowed. It was hardly the end for her. A few years later, she returned to school to get a masters in nutrition, the better to support her family.

I took this picture in the summer of 1972, when I was 11.

I took this one was well, in 1976. She’s with our cousin Jean, whom she was close with.

A laughing shot with an old friend of hers at her friend’s daughter’s wedding in 1980. I never saw this image until last month.

With her first grandchildren, Sam and Dees.

At our cousin Ralph’s wedding in 1987, with Jim and me.

She enjoyed attending American Dietetic Association national conventions in such places as Denver and Philadelphia in the ’80s.

During her visit to Japan in 1994.

The picture of her for the St. Paul’s church directory in 1997.

With Lilly, also 1997.

She told me once she wanted to live long enough to see the 21st century. In the fullness of time, she did. I found this picture recently, another one I’d never seen before. Doing volunteer church work on Christmas.

During our 2013 visit: Ann posing with her grandmother.

And on her 90th birthday, only three years ago now.

My Mother In Pictures, Part 1

To go with the obituary posted by the undertakers who arranged my mother’s funeral were pictures we collected. I scanned some of them in September in anticipation of a posting, while the funeral home scanned others from physical prints that we provided.

Since then, I’ve scanned a few more. Such as this one, taken soon after New Year 1926, when she was two and a half months old.

A month later:

Ca. 1929 in what must be a special-occasion dress.

Around the same time. I’ve posted this one before, of her with her father’s mother.

The mid-1930s, when she was about 10, pictured with her little sister Sue.

With her father in San Antonio, ca. 1938. According to the back of the picture, they were going, or had just been, to a baseball game. Presumably the minor league Missions, which have had a long history, with some interruptions, in San Antonio.

In San Antonio with her mother, 1942, just before she went to college.

A series of college pictures.

This one is dated December 31, 1945. Attending a New Year’s Eve party, no doubt. In no other picture have I ever seen her hair done up this way.

A formal pose around the time of her graduation in 1947.

A less formal shot at the time of graduation.

I’ve posted this one before. A trip with her family and one friend to Monterrey, Mexico, in the summer of ’47.

My parents’ wedding, November 26, 1949.

On to the 1950s. With my brother Jay, her first child.

With Jim, her second child.

With both of them in Germany.

With my father, going to some social event while he was in the Army.

 

Forward to 1963. I’ve made my appearance.

The contrast with the next picture is pretty clear; my father is gone, only a year later.

More tomorrow.

RIP, Jo Ann Stribling, 1925-2018

The week after my mother died last month, I wrote an obituary for her. This is a slightly modified version of it.

Jo Ann Curnutte Stribling, longtime resident of San Antonio, passed away on October 14, 2018, less than two weeks shy of her 93rd birthday.

Jo Ann is survived by her sons Jay, Jim and Dees (Yuriko), her grandchildren Sam (Emily), Dees (Eden), Robert, Lilly and Ann, her great-grandson Neil, her nephews Ralph Arnn and Vernon Jay Stribling, and their families, and cousin Michelle Gottfred.

Her beloved husband, Samuel Henderson Stribling, predeceased her, as did her parents, James and Edna Curnutte, her sister Sue Arnn and Sue’s husband Ken, her daughter-in-law Deb Stribling, her cousin Jean Horsman, and many other friends and relatives of her generation.

She is now at peace after suffering the ravages of dementia during the last few years of her life. For most of her life she had the good fortune to enjoy robust health.

Jo Ann was born in Jourdanton, Texas, on October 24, 1925, and spent most of her formative years in South Texas. After graduating from Corpus Christi High School (now Roy Miller High School), she attended Texas State College for Women (now Texas Woman’s University) in Denton, studying nutrition and graduating in 1947.

In 1949, she married Sam, a physician from Mississippi, and soon devoted herself to their growing family as her children were born in 1952, 1955 and 1961. The young couple lived in Houston and later McKinney, Texas, along with a stint in Germany during Sam’s service as a doctor in the U.S. Army in the mid-50s.

Sam died suddenly and unexpectedly in 1964 at only 41, leaving Jo Ann bereaved and the sole parent to her children. She worked hard from then on not only to provide for their material well-being, but to guide their growth to responsible adulthood with a steady hand that was never heavy-handed. In her later years, she was delighted with the coming of her three grandsons and two granddaughters.

Jo Ann returned to TWU and obtained her master’s degree in nutrition in 1967, thus re-starting her career in that field. In 1970, she became a clinical dietitian at Bexar County Hospital in San Antonio, a position she held until she retired more than 20 years later. Dietitians are unsung healthcare professionals who make sure patients receive the best nutrition they need to speed their recovery.

She was a longtime member of St. Paul’s Episcopal Church in San Antonio, attending church regularly until her health failed, and supporting the church financially and by volunteering her time and energy. She was happy to be known as a church lady. Her faith in the Lord was quiet and steady.

Jo Ann made friends easily and was well regarded by her colleagues at the hospital. She was largely free of the social prejudices that marked many of her generation and, as the decades passed, was open to new ideas.

Though a stable and hardworking individual, she had a well-developed sense of humor — she enjoyed sharing jokes with her sister Sue in particular — and a sometimes surprising whimsical streak. She was fond of her dogs, her sewing projects, and the many books she read.

Jo Ann was a good person who had a good run in this world. She will be missed by all those who knew her and especially by those who had the very good fortune to be part of her family.

Thursday Detritus

The rains have cleared away, leaving cold air in their wake. This pattern will keep repeating in the coming months, getting successively colder until snow replaces rain and mere cold air is a polar vortex or some such. Bah. At least the trees are coloring up nicely.

An open question for YouTube: how, in the age of digital spying on consumers — so I hear — can YouTube offer me such wildly off-the-mark ads? Lately I’ve been getting a lot of anti-vapping ads, for instance. Aimed at teenagers. Not, I have to add, ahead of much content that that demographic might watch on YouTube. The chances of me taking up vapping are pretty close to zero, YouTube.

Some time ago I picked up a copy of The Shipping News by Annie Proulx (1993) for $1 at Half Price Books. Now I’m reading it. It’s a good read and there are some good lines in it. Here’s one that helps introduce a character:

For the devil had long ago taken a shine to Tert Card, filled him like a cream horn with itch and irritation.

One of the author’s idiosyncrasies is constructions like that, with “filled” instead of “filling.” But you get used to it, and it works. That’s a wonderful sentence that pretty much sets the tone for Tert Card. We’ve all met people like that.

From a press release over the transom the other day, a subject I have no professional interest in. I’m more interested in how the thing was written. I suspect the writer is a fairly fluent but nevertheless non-native speaker of English (all sic):

Businessmen hailing from UAE have an interest in making some investments in Armenia. The trade turnover in between the two countries has risen 10-folks from twenty-five million to about 250 million USD in the last five years as told by Zaki Nusseibeh, the Minister of the State after the sidelines of the ministerial conference of 17th Francophonie summit…

After Ruddigore on Saturday, Ann wanted ice cream. At about 10 in the evening in Evanston, Andy’s Frozen Custard seemed the only place still open serving something close to ice cream. She agreed that was close enough, so we went.
That image doesn’t have many people in it, but not long after we got there, the place was packed. Seems that selling frozen custard late on Saturday evenings near a major university is a pretty good business.

I’d never been to Andy’s before. Turns out there are about 60 of them, mostly scattered around the central U.S., though as far north as metro Chicago and as far south as central Florida. Andy’s makes a good frozen treat. Too good, in fact. I should have gotten a small triple chocolate instead of a medium.

Who did the score for Doctor Zhivago? I found myself wondering that yesterday. Maybe that’s something I should know, but I looked it up: Maurice Jarre.

That came to mind because I’d turned on the TV and DZ was playing. In fact, the very scene in which Yuri and Lara reunited. The Lara’s theme leitmotif was part of the action. I watched about 15 minutes of it.

“What’s this movie about?” Ann asked. I had to think. It’s been how long since I’ve seen it? In the summer of ’81 at the Texas Union Theatre, or in Japan in the early ’90s, when I saw so many movies on VHS? Either way, over 25 years ago.

“Well, let’s see. Doctor Zhivago, that’s him there, Omar Sharif. He’s a doctor of course, and he has a wife. He likes her well enough, but he really loves this other woman, who’s on screen now. I don’t remember who played her. Anyway, there’s a love triangle and they all get caught up in the Russian Revolution and are often in danger. Bolsheviks show up. Zhivago’s also a poet and sensitive fellow. He spends a lot of time looking off in the distance. And there’s a lot of scenery. Wide shots of the steppes of Russia. It’s an epic of a movie. Did I mention that it’s over three hours long? It’s an epic of epic proportions.”

Despite my flip description, I remember liking the movie whenever I saw it. Odd how details of most movies you see or books you read or music you hear or places you go tend to evaporate over the years, leaving a residue like the one I told to Ann.

Never have read Pasternak, so I don’t even have a residue of the book. Maybe I should, but life is short and Russian novels are long. The most recent one I read, a few years ago, was August 1914. Pretty soon into it, I gave up trying to keep track of all of the many characters.

Maurice Jarre, I learned, is the father of Jean-Michel Jarre, known to me for Oxygène. Back when people had record collections, there was always one kid on each floor of each dorm at your college who had unusual records, things no one else had ever heard of. I can’t remember the lad’s name, but he was on my hall freshman year, and that was one of the records he had.

More October Scenes

Heavy rains today, but nothing like the Florida panhandle’s getting. Looks like heavy damage in the area.

I have some fond memories of the likes of Seaside and Apalachicola and Port St. Joe. I even think we stopped for lunch in Mexico Beach, which is where Michael’s eye came ashore today. That town is essentially a cluster of buildings along US 98 as it runs next to the ocean. Mexico Beach might not be there any more.

Here in the North, geese forage for food in the suburbs, making their noise and leaving their droppings.

Halloween decorations are going up. I haven’t spotted many inflatables, which is a welcome reversal of that trend. A deflating of it. Most of the decorations don’t involve lights, but there are a few on our block.

This particular house has always been decked out for Halloween, including the faux cemetery. The residents have never been inclined toward inflatables.

October Scene

Yesterday and today were unseasonably warm. They were also a Monday and Tuesday, so I didn’t have a lot of time to lounge around on the deck outside and enjoy it. In theory, I could take my computer outside and work there, but the charms of a warm afternoon are distracting when there’s laptop work to be done, and the screen can be hard to see.

But I did have a few minutes in the afternoon to look up at the sky.

That’s to the southeast. The puffy mass was moving fast and left my view pretty quickly, replaced by grayer clouds that dropped some rain about 30 minutes later.

Does the dog care about the weather?

Who can say? But when the wind is up, she does sniff vigorously.

Ruddigore

On Saturday, Ann and I went to see Ruddigore by the same troupe that did The Pirates of Penzance last year, the Savoyaires, who do their shows at a junior high auditorium in Evanston. Musical direction by Timothy Semanik, stage direction by Kingsley Day.

Except for the hard seats, it was a good time. I understand that the work was originally the followup to The Mikado, which must have been a hard act to follow, but Ruddigore was topsy-turvy fun anyway, as Gilbert & Sullivan tends to be. Probably it helps that we have no reason, more than a century later, to compare one work too closely to another that happened to come just before it.

Ann said it was enjoyable too, partly because the story wasn’t quite as convoluted as the other productions she’s seen. Not that the story’s ever the main thing, but as she said, it was nice to be able to keep track of the characters.

All of the main cast acquitted themselves well. I was particularly fond of the energy that Jonathan Joseph Larson, a large man with a large beard, brought to the sailor Richard Dauntless, and Lane Halverson’s amusing performance of the relatively small part of Old Adam, Robin Oakapple’s faithful servant. He has his moment when he’s tasked to abduct a maiden.

There were some laughs. Maybe not as many as in Patience, especially when the Duke of Dunstable emerged in pink tights, but even chuckles are impressive in a work that’s more than 130 years old. Some clever lines I chuckled at:

RICH. And I make bold to ax your honour’s advice. Does your honour know what it is to have a heart?
SIR D. My honour knows what it is to have a complete apparatus for conducting the circulation of the blood through the veins and arteries of the human body.

ROB. My good sir, if I can’t disinherit my own unborn son, whose unborn son can I disinherit?
SIR ROD. Humph! These arguments sound very well, but I can’t help thinking that, if they were reduced to syllogistic form, they wouldn’t hold water.

MAR. Listen – I’ve come to pinch her!
ROSE. Mercy, whom?
MAR. You mean “who.”
ROSE. Nay! It is the accusative after the verb.

Of course, no joke about grammar is as funny as this.

Kohler in the Fall

Ten years ago this month I went to a conference in Kohler, Wisconsin, famed for its plumbing equipment but also enlivened by colorful trees, if you time your visit right. One afternoon I had a little while to take a walk near the American Club, site of the conference.

Across Highland Dr. from the club are buildings that belonged to the Kohler Co., and still do, according to Google Maps. This is the front-office building of the company’s enormous factory.

The street offers a leafy walk at the edge of the Kohler plant.

Also on Highland Dr. is the Village of Kohler Fire Dept. headquarters. On the side of the fire department building is this curious bit of artwork. Curious enough for me to take a picture, anyway.

St. George and the Dragon, looks like. Maybe the dragon is a metaphor for fire. Still, the patron saint of firefighters isn’t St. George, but rather St. Florian. The Florian cross is the basis of the logo of the International Association of Firefighters.

Further down the street is a railroad crossing.
Before long Highland Dr. turns into Riverside Dr., with views of the Sheboygan River available.
The Sheboygan flows directly into Lake Michigan. I also saw it in Sheboygan Falls during that trip.

Near Riverside is parkland.

It was a good place for an October walk.

Early October Debris

We acquired some pumpkins today.
For now they’ll be on the deck, at risk of squirrel attack. I suppose we’re aspiring to jack-o-lanterns, but the way things go, we might not do any cutting until October 30.

A recent press release I received said, in part: “_____ chewables are refreshing… tablets that ward off fatigue, foggy head and nausea.

“Using Japanese _____, an ancient detox extract with hangover prevention properties and anti-inflammatory effects, _____ also contains potent antioxidants that replenish lost electrolytes. They boost immune support, hydration and give your liver much needed love.”

That should be “much-needed love,” but I’m nit picking. Yet it’s true, we just don’t love our livers enough in this country. Think of all that the liver does for us, and what do we do to it (some of us, anyway)? Lacquer our livers with alcohol.

Even so, I decided to opt out of more mail from that source. I get a lot of email as it is.

The camera does odd things sometimes.
That or I accidentally recorded the dog receiving a telepathic message from her home planet. It’s well known that such messages generate a fleeting green glow at the back of the eyeball.

A recent dusk.

Not long ago I saw a rainbow at about the same time of day. I was able to tell Ann, “Rainbow at night, sailor’s delight, rainbow at morning, sailor take warning.” She’d never heard that. Modern education is pretty much a failure when it comes to weather proverbs. Or is it “red sky”? Both versions exist, as far as I can tell.